by Leah Livingston
The topic of anal sex is a real touchy subject, (no pun intended) in many relaitonships. The husband or boyfriend usually wants to do this because of seeral reasons:
- He saw it during a film.
- He needs a release during our time of the month.
- Just having a nice lucious butt.
- Because of the tight fit.
What some women will find is that the last one may be the most preferred reason by men if you have been married or in a long-term relationship over time. Sometimes when we have children, the vagina does not contract back to the normal size and what happens is larger hole in diametre than your man is used to which leads to less friction during sex and less satisfaction for him. Women may use oral sex to compensate, but the man wants something that he can penetrate without teeth. However, there are some major health concerns, because the anus is a mucus membrane and therfore very delicate. The size of your man may dictate if it is feasible in the first place. There are a lot of plugs and creams to ease the process, but through it all size does matter. The worse case is to have a prolapse, where the intestines are permamently damaged. Some women may go for vaginal surgery as an alternative to doing booty-duty.
The angle of penetration is also another issue in that soem angles may be easier and less painful than others. The amount of thrust may also impact the experience. One method that I use with my man is to lube him up, get him very hard and slowly push against his penis so that I can guage how much to take and therefore he has an idea how far he can go in. I do it because I love the penetration, but if you are not comfortable with it, don’t do it. Also, an issue such as this is good to cover before you marry someone, because at some point he may try, but knowing up front does help. The unfortunate reality is that if you don’t or won’t there is always another woman who will.
Soem guys require this before taking on a serious relationship, if it happens in the bedroom and you are not interested, that is one aspect of your relatioship that will bein jeopardy.
