Black men seem to be more aware of this and since my first, I’ve climaxed everytime, even to the point of squirting orgasms.  What happens is that throughout the black man’s life he is not appreciated black African American women and when he reaches adulthood, he is totally alienated from black women.  My current man refuses to even look at another African American female because of the wa he was treated by them when he had very little to offer financially.  Now with the seven figure annual income, they want him desperately, but he is so not interested.

I said this to say that before you tear down the next black male you meet, he could be that one that could give you happiness as did mine. I got the guy, cash, and orgasm.

      The topic of anal sex is a real touchy subject, (no pun intended) in many relaitonships.  The husband or boyfriend usually wants to do this because of seeral reasons:

1.       He saw it during a film.
2.       He needs a release during our time of the month.
3.       Just having a nice lucious butt.
4.       Because of the tight fit.

     What some women will find is that the last one may be the most preferred reason by men if you have been married or in a long-term relationship over time.  Sometimes  when we have children, the vagina does not contract back to the normal size and what happens is larger hole in diametre than your man is used to which leads to less friction during sex and less satisfaction for him.  Women may use oral sex to compensate, but the man wants something that he can penetrate without teeth.  However, there are some major health concerns, because the anus is a mucus membrane and therfore very delicate.  The size of your man may dictate if it is feasible in the first place.  There are a lot of plugs and creams to ease the process, but through it all size does matter.  The worse case is to have a prolapse, where the intestines are permamently damaged.  Some women may go for vaginal surgery as an alternative to doing booty-duty.

The angle of penetration is also another issue in that soem angles may be easier and less painful than others.  The amount of thrust may also impact the experience.  One method that I use with my man is to lube him up, get him very hard and slowly push against his penis so that I can guage how much to take and therefore he has an idea how far he can go in.  I do it because I love the penetration, but if you are not comfortable with it, don’t do it.  Also, an issue such as this is good to cover before you marry someone, because at some point he may try, but knowing up front does help.  The unfortunate reality is that if you don’t or won’t there is always another woman who will.

Soem guys require this before taking on a serious relationship, if it happens in the bedroom and you are not interested, that is one aspect of your relatioship that will bein jeopardy.

It was brought to my attention by a girlfriend of mine who gave up on brothers and decides to only date caucasian men, that they want more oral sex. Now this has been a taboo among us girls for a long time and now it seems that as more African American women date and marry other races, oral sex will play a greater role in satifying men. The thought of semen or the salty taste of a penis in the mouth turns a lot of women away from oral sex. Yet other women find the idea of sucking on something used to pee with repulsive. Like many other African American women who had to go that extra yard to keep their man, I used chasers such as chocolate syrup, whipped cream, strawberry glaze or anything else that would not put the thought in my head. Now, as weomen we must consider that when the guys go down on us, there are juices no matter how much we douche or clean ourselves.

One of the main complaints I hear from African American women who do this regularly for their men is the fact that the guy does not understand how to get underneath the hood and suck the clit properly. Here is one thing that my man and I tried that worked, I had one of my closest friends who happens to be a lesbian invite us to their home for a demonstration. Of course he was turned on by what they did to eachother, but he also learned the things that women have know for decades, the right spot. That night in bed, he ate me so much that I cried. Now, this worked for me but may not be your cup of tea, porn videos are a good way for him to learn. The only complaints I have heard from guys about doing this is the smell sometimes, so ladies should always sniff before you lay.

Now there is one thing that I see a lot of in some of the videos AT, Ass-to-Mouth sex, and really this should not be done because of the great possiblity of infection. Besides that situation, ladies just make sure he is not dipping in you and another guy without a condom, stay, safe, sexy, and strong.

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written by Diana Swyeth-Hamil

       America has a long history of racial issues, but over time these differences have become a point of tension and romantic intrigue.  We are now seeing more divorced and widowed mature Caucasian females seeking younger African American men for both serious and sexual relationships.  Women younger than 35 find it easier to pursue these interracial relationships with a lot more ease than their mothers, aunts, and grandparents.  The caliber of the African American male is very important unlike the past when the racial difference was the lure for interest.  The myth of the giant penis does not readily apply to all African American men and women have realized this situation.  Some women born in the 1940’s, 1950’s, and 1960’s are daring to cross the lines of racial taboos to fulfill dormant sexual desires that survived marriages, divorces, dates, rearing a family while suppressing these needs.

       Some Caucasian women like myself and a few of my friends married the high school sweetheart during a time when African Americans were never a consideration for dating or anything else.  I did not fathom such a thought until four years into my marriage when my then husband and I watched my first interracial adult movie.  The size of the member did get my interest, but I realized that I was culturally inept to deal with a black man beyond the workplace environment.  The curiosity of wondering if I had missed out on other experiences haunted me after my third child and 10 years later.

       I thought for sure that I would never be strong or brave enough to venture into a relationship with a black man.  After sex, I found myself unsatisfied through 17 years of marriage and having to masturbate for an orgasm.  Upon fulfilling my fantasy by experiencing sex with an African American man.  Sex with him was the first time I had a vagina orgasm in my life.  It was more psychological in that I felt that the sex was for me more so than the pleasure of my man.

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Leah Livingston | October 21, 2009

The bisexual wife is the accepted by many men as a means of having the opportunity to have a second woman in the house without the friction of creating on he spouse.  The rationale is that if both spouses are enjoying the same experience, then it would not be classified as cheating.

This is like drinking a diet drink while taking on a 1,300 calorie meal.  The logic does not add up in the traditional sense.  The term having one’s cake and eating it too is the best analogy.  Even though people who engage in this sort of activity rarely come out in public, they remain very active.  The problems arise when several things happen in the relationship stemming for the wife’s bisexuality.

1. She may begin to prefer the company of other women more than that of men.
2. She may begin to get jealous as the years progress and a competition develops between the husband and the wife trying to win-over the woman.
3. The wife may decide to see other women without the husband knowing.

These are just three examples that could happen to both a bisexual wife or husband and should be really examined carefully before taking on this responsibility.

1. One main problem that bisexual women face when it comes to men is that in many cases they are not taken seriously for a relationship.  Younger guys may find it cool and older guys who don’t expect much may also find them amusing.  The reality is the woman runs the risk of becoming a novelty more so than someone that a guy would invest in heavily.  Now, before you begin to post all of the exceptions, really think about it for a moment, bisexual = sexual instability.    This means that besides the sexual aspect, there is very little value for most people to pursue a relationship, been there done that.